Family court finds man's explicit photo leak abusive but denies wife protection order
A Singapore family court found that a man who sent explicit photos of his wife and her lover to a family chat group committed emotional abuse, but declined to grant a personal protection order. The magistrate cited the man's reflection and steps to change his life, adding that the incidents were dat
SINGAPORE: A man who sent explicit photos of his wife and her lover to a family chat group committed emotional or psychological abuse, a family court has found. However, the court did not grant the wife a personal protection order (PPO) she sought, giving among its reasons that the man had reflected on his stressors and taken concrete steps to change his life.
In a judgment published on Tuesday (Oct 13), Magistrate Soh Kian Peng emphasised that the lack of a PPO does not mean that he is condoning the man's actions. He also said that the PPO regime is not meant to right wrongs between people or to punish wrongdoing, but to protect those who find themselves trapped in a cycle of abusive domestic relationships. The judgment did not name the parties involved, as is usual in family court rulings.
The couple are in the midst of divorce proceedings. The woman had sought a PPO and a domestic exclusion order for the study room in the flat they share. The man admitted to adding his wife to a chat group with her family members, then removing her and sending explicit photos of her and her lover to the other members. He had obtained the photos from her phone.
The man explained that he wanted to make it clear he was not the one sabotaging their relationship, and that it was the woman who was cheating on him. In another similar incident, the man created a chat group with his wife's supervisor, added her, then removed her again. He claimed that he never sent any explicit photos to this chat, saying that he was very angry but managed to "master his emotions and take a step back".
Mr Soh said that the man's acts in both incidents amounted to emotional or psychological abuse, or both. Even if one accepted the man's account that he did not send explicit photos to the chat with his wife's supervisor, this did not lessen the torment or distress she felt, said Mr Soh. Instead, his actions in both incidents pointed to an attempt at maximising the torment or distress inflicted on the woman, who would be left completely in the dark about what had been sent.
However, despite finding that this amounted to an act of family violence against the woman, Mr Soh did not find it necessary to grant a PPO. The magistrate said that, in considering whether such an order is necessary, the court must consider the likelihood of family violence being committed in the future. "I would also add that it must be remembered that the grant of a PPO represents state intervention into what would ordinarily be the private affairs of parties," he said.
Mr Soh added that the incidents of family violence took place in 2023 and were "rather dated". He rejected a point made by the woman's lawyer that a PPO was required to prevent further arguments as the pair tried to sell their flat. Mr Soh said that the couple must "use a good measure of common sense and carve out a sale arrangement together with their property agent that would minimise the need for them to interact".
The woman's lawyer, Mr Jeeva Arul Joethy from Regal Law, argued that the man was "altogether unapologetic" about the incidents involving the chat groups. However, the magistrate disagreed, saying that the man had admitted to verbally abusing his wife and was committed to turning his life around and doing better for his children.
